I had an encounter the other day that was so subtle, in a room of 5 other people, only I noticed.
Perhaps I’m being overly sensitive, but I think not …
As I said, a group of people, who are also my friends, were visiting us in our home. They are all good people whom I like, but the person I was speaking to was really what I’d call an acquaintance. Making small talk, he asked what I did while hubby golfed. Well, I stammered around a bit and then remembered one of the things I do is I indulge my passion of photography. So I told him I loved photography, and spent a lot of time taking and editing photos.
He then told me how his wife loved photography too. As I was truly interested, I asked what she liked to take photos of. Well, she loves to take shots of nature, you know, landscapes, etc. etc.
This is where my sweet hubby mentioned that I have a blog, and share a lot of photos on it. It fell on deaf ears. He immediately mentioned his wife has a Facebook page where she posts her photos.
I then (quite out of character) offered to give him one of my cards so she and I could connect. But he simply said, well, I’ll give you one of my cards, which he proceeded to do. I took it and thanked him.
Fast forward to this morning. The hubs asked me if I was going to send my info to this person and I said, oh, probably not … . When he asked me why not, I had a hard time explaining. I had to think about it for a bit … and this is what I said:
I won’t be sending him my info because it feels hollow. He did not acknowledge my blog, and when I offered him one of my cards (which btw are artful cards made from my IG account), instead he wanted me to take one of his cards and, I guess, get back to him. Ummm … no. But thank you anyway.
I get that people are proud of their (or their spouse’s) accomplishments, and want to share them. Goodness knows I do!
But even if your end game is to show off your stuff, at least have the courtesy to pretend you’re interested in what the other person is saying. Or, hey! BE interested in what someone else is saying. How about it? do you think he was listening?
Day 7 of blogging every day in February.